Cmad ever be ready for marriage ?
folks, I don't know. Can't really see myself settling down
just yet. Too many nice women out there :) ! But seriously,
Marriage to me is something very serious and should only
be done once. One of my biggest fears is marrying someone
who I may think at the time is the right one and then only
finding out years later that she is not. I don't wanna make
that mistake. I belive in the whole drama of one day seeing
this one perosn and just knowing that she is the one. Guess
I watch too much TV eh ?
hope to settle down one day though. I hope to find that
one person who truly understands me and who I can truly
understand. My sole mate. The one who was meant for me.
I hope to settle down and make (no more than 2) little Cmad's
to run around the place and take over Daddy's website :)
But, until that day comes, well , I'll still be searching
for Mrs. Right !
Search for Mrs. Right
I know what you're gonna say, you should never try and find
Mrs. Right, eventually she'll come to you. Yeah ,I know......heard
it all before, but I honestly believe that for her to find
you , you have to be out there ! But out where is the question
? Funny, isn't it ? :)
the past year I have been analyzing myself, actually being
my own shrink , trying to figure out what it is I really
want in a woman. Actually, I came up with a pretty long
list of the different features, things like intelligence,
kindness, loyalty etc , etc, and then I realized ( I guess
something that I knew all along) that I would never really
find a "Mrs. Right". Not to say that I consider
myself to be Mr. Right or anything, but at the least I think
I'm a really nice guy :) ..........but....I digress. Mrs.
Right does not exist. There is no perfect woman (nor man
for that matter !), but , what there is, is a fictional
character that we all create in our minds ........our ideal
person. Unfortunately , we as human beings eventually compare
the person that we're with or the person that we've just
met to that "ideal" person that we've fantasized
about and end up disappointed when that person doesn't turn
out to be what we expected.
most of you know I recently made a trip to both Miami
and New York for vacation. I went to Miami for Carnival
and New York just to hang out. In Miami I stayed by my
friend Slim and in New York by my other friend Taz. Although
I thanked them before I left, I just wanted to use this
forum to thank them again for all their hospitality and
for going out of their way to ensure that my stay there
was most enjoyable. They both took time off from their
jobs to lime with me and show me around and I really appreciated
thanks for ditching work that day (err , maybe I shouldn't
be mentioning this ! heheheh) to come and lime. Thanks
for organizing the car and showing me around, thanks for
the fetes and the hoes ! thanks for it all !
thanks for taking me sightseeing in the Big Apple , especially
since you saw it all before. Thanks for the Broadway plays
and bearing with me as I took my annoying touristy photos
of Time Square, Rockefeller Center and the like. Thanks
for practically taking the week off to show me a wonderful
also want to say thanks to everybody else for their hospitality
as well including my family, Uncle Ken and his family,
Uncle Tony and his family, Richard and his family, not
forgetting Celeste and Brian , Slim's roommates and friends
in Miami , Mick and Chip in New York and or course Janet
(pronounced Jun-nea) who was really cool in putting up
with my snoring and in general letting me harrass her
for a week :) ..........oh yeah , and thanks to Berks
for dropping and coming to pick me up in the Airport.
are all true friends and I'm glad to have you in my life.
Beer is a ...............Stag ?
when ? I thought a beer was a Carib ! At least that was
the marketing hype that prevailed back in the day,
when I was just a young punk going to school. Carib was
the best beer in de land , as a matter of fact , Carib was
the best beer in de world !
remember when I now started to drink, before Carib bought
over Stag, (ya know, during the "Beer Wars" days)
there used to be this poster that Carib distributed that
depicted a Donkey standing on it's two hind legs , drinking
a Carib and pissing into a Stag bottle :) I always thought
it was funny as hell ! Back in dem days the word "Stag"
was not spoken in many bars in the north, as a matter of
fact it wasn't mentioned in many other places either. I
knew of bars that only stocked Carib Beer and you wouldn't
dare call for a Stag or they'd send you packing.
I was chosen to participate in a survey about Heineken Beer
for which I was paid $75 an hour. One of the questions they
asked was to name your favourite beer and explain why you
like it so much. Out of 6 guys surveyed, 5 of them choose
Stag as their beer of choice and for the life of me I couldn't
understand why ! The other guys talked about the smoothness
of a Stag and how it goes down much easier than a Carib,
and a whole bunch of other stuff that I at the time I thought
was allot of B.S. Now, I'll be honest, up to that
point in time I hadn't had a beer for years so I was really
out of touch with the beer drinking world. I had "graduated"
to drinking rum and never really looked back. So,
as far as I remembered , a beer was still a Carib. Well,
imagine the embarrassment when dey asked me the question
and I stood up and preceded to defend Carib, a beer I no
longer drank, as being the best beer in T&T. Needless
to say they all had a good laugh !
long after I decided to give Stag a try and I'm happy to
say that I am now a true believer. I gotta agree that Stag
is really drinking good, it goes down allot smoother
than a Carib and it leaves no aftertaste in the mouth. Geez
, ah sounding like de dam ad ! But, it leaves me to wonder,
have I become a Stag man now ? Well........................
whatever , one ah get a good head, who cares ?
a few facts about the national anthem that I wanted to
share. Did you know that the national anthem, while composed
by the deceased Mr. Pat Castagne , was scored and arranged
by the deceased Mr. Sonny Denver. How come we never heard
about him ? Also, did you know that the anthem was originally
composed by Mr. Castagne for the then Federation of the
West Indies? But, when that Federation
fell through, it was modified to be used as the national
anthem of Trinidad and Tobago. Just think,
that line that goes "side by side we stand, islands
of the blue Caribbean Sea" actually referred to ALL
the islands of the Caribbean ! Humm ...seems like
we got a second hand anthem.
Much Fete !
I doh know
about allya people but I having a hard time trying to
keep up with all the soca fete it have going on in this
country. It seems like every weekend I have at least 5
different fetes. If it aint Fire Services is Licensing
Fete (both of which went already) is some fete in Pier
1 or Anchorage , who by the way seem to be trying to outdo
each other each and every weekend. Gosh man ! ah findin
it hard to update my Trini
Beat page these days, cause as ah publish something
, something else comes up again ! It's nice to see so
much frenzy over Carnival 2000, but seeing that is since
before Christmas we start celebrating one hopes
that the STAMINA will maintain ! Anyway, to you
FBT's (Foreign Based Trini's) ALLYA REAL MISSING OUT
Now, I don't
usually talk politics on my website, mainly because I
believe that politics is like religion, everybody believe
what they want to believe. I have no intention of getting
into an political argument with anybody, especially since
these days politics and race seem to be so closely tied.
But a thought
came to mind recently, and I thought I would share it.
What if , when you go to vote, there are separate jars
of ink for you to dip your finger into for each party.
What if there was one colour for the UNC, another for
the PNM , another for the NAR etc , and because this was
so it would be easy to clearly identify which party a
person voted for. Cause ya know dat ink do wear off so
So, My question
is , would you go and vote ? Would you be brave enough
to stand up for the party that you voted for ? What if
the ink took even longer to wear off, like a year or two
? Would you be willing to vote ? Would you be willing
to stand behind your decision for so long ? Would you
be willing to have the world know that you voted for the
elected party ? Or would you try ya best to get that
ink off ?
Would you ?
Coming Home !
year around Christmas time I get this feeling of anxiety
in not only for Christmas and New Years but also to see
friends who I have not seen for the year.
normally all meet up at either Anchorage or Pier 1 on
Christmas Night and it is one of the best limes for the
whole year. Most of the night is spent hailing out friends
and family who for one reason or the other have been away
for most of the year. At this annual Christmas Night fete
the old lime just seems to all fall into place , and for
just that one night it seems like we are back to the old
2000 was no exception. Over he course of the season people
like Taz, Snorling (Sterlin) , Suzie Q , Cozies , Lummi
, Howie T, Cronie Terrace Crew (Elson), Small Chest (Nick),
Kats and more were seen in fetes on the Island. Even though
it was not said at the time (cuz it need not be said)
I was glad to see them once again. So just a special shout
out to them all, take it easy my peeps , see you all next
as many of you don't know on the 10th of December every
year I celebrate a birthday, and celebrate I did this
year ! It was nice, everybody treated me really well for
that one day , and those people know who they are.
then you must be asking "well Cmad, why then did
you have birthday woes ?". Well, that's just it !
my birthday was for one day, one lousy day ! that's all
! All my family and friends treated me nice for one day
and then it was back to normal ! So my thought for that
one day was "I wish that I could be treated like
this all year round !".
I was thinking, If we as people in this world would
be as nice to other people all year round as we are on
their birthday then this world would be a much nicer place
and Kiss Baking go sell allot more cakes too ! (heheh
in the 90's
before I make my comments here I just wanna state for the
record that I am no less guilty of these things than most
of you out there, so i'm not judging anyone but rather making
seems like now more that ever we live in a world of high
promiscuity and immorality. Just about everyone nowadays
is living a having all kinds of sex with all kinds of people
and not giving it a second thought. Society on a whole seems
to encourage this kind of behavior and it is therefore not
surprising to hear of the increase in the spread of aids
and other sexually transmitted diseases. Television, Movies
and Radio all seem to promote this lifestyle by depicting
it as being "average" or "normal"
for today's youth. But is this really what we want our young
people to think ? Doesn't this sexual liberation produce
more harm than good ?
was listening to a call in program on Power 102 some months
ago, where the discussion was about sex and sexual acts.
The host, a woman, actually went into great detail about
the woman's sexual organs describing which were the best
places for a man to "aim for" in order for the
woman to achieve an orgasm. Many people, especially women,
called in to express their views and share their experiences
of both good and bad sex that they have had and in general
people were encouraged to be quite graphic in their descriptions.
Now, I am all for discussing sex openly but considering
that the radio is such an open medium, is it the correct
place for this kind of discussion ? When a 11 or 12 year
old can turn on the radio and hear this kinda of discussion
going on what is he or she to think about sex ? When the
host of the program is proclaiming her support for sex before
marriage as she says "well ya have to try it out first",
what is a young person supposed to think ? Doesn't that
help to promote sexual promiscuity at an early age ?
argument against this is that it's the parent's responsibility
to censor what their children look at and listen too. But
society on a whole is not making this any easier on the
parent. Teen shows like "Dawson Creek" deal with
sex in every episode, and whereas they "keep
it real" buy depicting what is actually on the minds
of young people (sex !) doesn't this also say "Go ahead
and have sex, cuse everyone else your age is doing it !".
,as a young person growing up I was constantly at wits end
trying to figure out what to do about sex. On one hand there
was my religious background that always said that having
sex before marriage was a sin and on the other had there
was society through TV, Movies , Music and even friends
saying that it was ok. Nowadays it's almost impossible to
find someone who is a virgin.
I think that young people have it even harder. There are
way too many signs pointing them in the wrong direction.
Actually allot of adults have even given up on them and
have chosen to merely say "If you're gonna do it, use
a condom". But is this the correct attitude to have
? How will this sexual liberation that we are so strongly
advocating now affect our children in the future ?
back at a decade so much change, in a world of over 35 million
HIV infected people, and overabundance of teen pregnancies
and abortions has this sexual liberation done us more harm
than good ?
Christmas around the corner the malls are betting busier
and busier each day. Yesterday I went into the mall to get
a few things (yes folks the malls are open on Sundays now)
and of course before I can get anything I have to go ATM.
there I was standing in line and the thought occurred to
me how far should I stand away from the person infront of
me who is using the ATM ? Now as everybody knows the ATM
is a private thing, people need their space, after all it's
a secret number that you're putting in there ! But some
people get carried away with this secret number thing, ah
mean ah see one woman trying to cover up de whole dam ATM
machine wit she bag and all kinda ting , just so we ain't
go see ! Then again if ya stand too far away others might
think that you ain't using de ATM and get in front of you
! It really raises an issue of ATM Etiquette.
is the correct Etiquette for using the ATM ?
is the proper distance to stand away from someone using
the ATM ?
we even be looking in the direction of the machine while
someone is using it ?
we assist them when they seem to be experiencing trouble
or should we steups and mumble below our breath ?
there be a NO FARTING sign, especially in the enclosed ATMs
we tell someone when we have discovered that the ATM is
down or let then find out for themselves ?
we look at other people's receipts ?
we take these receipts and show other people and pretend
that they are ours ? (One the balance is high of course!)
the answers to these questions are, the bank certainly doesn't
provide the answers !
, until someone can supply an answer you can be sure that
Cmad will be out there asking the questions , righting the
wrongs , seeking out justice, and thinking of bullshit things
to write about on his website while he waits in line at
the ATM !!!!
things that make a good fete !
I was thinking about it and wondering "What really
makes a fete good ?", and ah doh just mean "good"
or "ok" ah mean REAL GOOD fete.
We have all gone to a fete at some point in time and had
a real good time, so much so that days, weeks , or even
months later we still talking about it !!!
on ! Think about it ! It must have happened to you too !
Some fete that remains in ya mind for years ! Now some might
argue that if that if the fete was so good then ya wouldn't
remember anything because ya would be too tight ! But i
doh agree, a truly good fete ya would remember for a long
me there were many like this, I recall the days of Chez
Moi, Upper Level and the sorts. Days when de music was good,
de vibe was nice and everybody ya know used to be there.
Days when Slick Rick and Shabba used to run de dance floor
and when dancing was everything! Party Time was a regular
thing every Sunday and everyone used to dress to kill in
de latest styles. If ya grew up in my era, ya would know
about these things.
I've decided to make a list of the 10 things that I think
make a good fete. Let me know if you agree. They are not
listed in any order of preference, just as they come to
mind. So here we go :
a fete must have people in it,
well at least I think so anyway, if it do have
people in it most of de time it go buss. Cuz if
you go in a fete and ya see it looking scanty
and hardly anybody there den ya might be looking
ta ride out early. Now ya see de people and dem
who throw fetes know this and this is why dey
does block up the fence (in outdoor fetes) so
ya cyah see how much (or how little) people it
have inside !
kinda people ?. Ok , so de fete have
people, plenty people, now what? Well de next
ting people does look at is what kinda people.
De average person doh want to be in a fete with
a buncha a ruffneck who look like de just waiting
to rob ya ! Ya know de kinda men who would buy
one carib and nurse it whole night ! Yeah allya
know what ah talking bout , right ?
Ratios ! Ok, plenty people in de party,
is a decent crowd, what else ? Well, ya hadda
now look at de ratios. What is de ratios? Well
de ratios of men to women of course ! No man wanna
be in a fete with too much man (otherwise know
as a postoffice!), and de ladies have said that
they doh like ah party with too much women. Don't
know why really ? I like that ! Anyway moving
many friends in de party ? For me this
is a big point. I love to go to a fete with a
BIG LIME. Ya know, with plenty people ya know,
and people with whom ya love to lime. People who
are vibrant and wild and who love to dance and
have a good time. People who ain't afraid of "getting
down" and "skankin out !" and who
doh give a shit about what others think. Dem is
good people to lime with. Unfortunately, sometimes
dey does get on a bit too wild ........I ain't
gonna call any names......Berks, Tall Man, etc
Music ! Now this has a direct relation
to how good the DJ is as well. So ya wanna go
to a fete where de DJ is known and thus ya have
a chance of hearing good music. Now I is a knida
man like all kinda music but it must come in sessions.
Ya know start off with some nice pop/altenative
session, move into a little latin if ya want,
bring in de r&B and move up de tempo to some
decent rap, den mix in ah decent soca session,
starting off with a little "worky worky"
or someting and taking up de pace to a "torro
torro" or something den break it down into
a back in times dub session. De Back in Times
dub session does usually be de best if ya have
a good DJ. Finally ya smooth it out into a slow
jams session. Now ya might have three or four
rounds of this for the night and ya good, depending
on the length of de sessions.
! After a good session, ya might wanna
go to de bar, so easy access to de bar is essential.
Now some of my die hard viewers like Kaiser would
put this on the top of the list, but hey, like
I said this not in any order ! Put it as you want
! But good bar access is essential ! Especially
in a free drinks !!!!!! We all know
how de bar does get crowded in a free drinks.
My usual plan is to go see if I see someone I
know working de bar, or if not make friends with
a female bartender or something. It does usually
benfit meh in de long run cuz ah does get through
faster and she does handle meh good !!! (don't
take that the wrong way people). And of
course de bar better not buss !!!!!
Code. De Dress Code for a GOOD fete should
be casual, cuz people aint gonna wine down to
de ground in dey Sunday Best !
This might be a mute point to some and
especially to women, but I hate a party dat have
ignorant bouncers. Too many times I had to come
across ignorant bouncers who wouldn't let ya in
because of how ya dress, or cuz ya shirt not in
ya pants and all kinda bullshit ! And den there
wuz de case of a padner of mine, who we would
call "Winer Boy" for now, who had dis
mad rass and used to get brace all de time in
Anchorage cuz de bouncers just didn't like he
head. Man dat shit does just piss me off !
Have to Pee ! It seems like even though
they clean the bathrooms before, by about 1:00
am de bathrooms does be STINK!!!! Women I know
have told me this about de ladies room as well.
This is one thing that the party organizers really
cyah control, cuz when men tight dey does pee
anywhere !!!! All over de ground, on de wall,
and this is in de bathroom I talking about ! I
even see a man piss in de sink once !!! Doh ask
!!! I still not sure how he do that !!!
Time . Now if I pay my money, doh come
and tell me to go home at 3:00 am. I like a fete
dat does go tilll.................till whatever
time I ready to go home. Chez Moi used to have
a dusk to dawn fete dat used to be real good !
I remember being there at dawn once and hearing
the DJ say in a soft mello voice
"as the sun rises over the eastern end of
the island, we have to remind you people that
are STILL HERE ! (in a much louder
voice) TO PLEASE GO HOME !!!!"
that's it folks , 10 things that in my mind, make a good
fete. Let me know what you think and of you wanna make it
11 or 12.
Hits the Bahamas
don't normally report the news on this site, but this one
strikes close to hone in all senses. I know some people
who live in the Bahamas, Tony and his wife Gina, and my
friend Darius (De Red Hoe !).
tonight, as Floyd completes it's rath upon these poor defenseless
islands, a special prayer
goes out to these people and indeed all the people of the
Bahamas. May God be with you all.
ask all my viewers to say a special prayer for the people
of the Bahamas.
strong is a Paper Bag ?
ah went in de grocery this evening, and while de lady was
packing meh groveries in de bag I wondered to myself "How
strong is a paper bag anyway ?".
by this point you people must be saying "what de arse
happen to CmAd Boy ?" , "He finally loose de last
marble" or "De last screw come loose !" Well
no, i just wonder about these things from time to time.
Cuz i go tell ya de amount a tings that hold in dat bag
and de bag didn't buss, man , dat really suprise me !
there holding de bag from de top eh and it have all kinda
big can and ting in it and it aint bussing man, so ah wonder
if anybody ever really check that out. I guess de people
who make de bags did some sorta test and ting.
well, whatever ! Who really cares ?
had to be one of the dumbest things I ever wrote about.
Dogs on De Highway !
don't know how many of you out there travel on the north-south
highway on a regular basis, but for us who do, the gutted
carcasses of dead dogs serve as additional obstacles to
the potholes and un-even landslips on this regularly commuted
a dog owner, it hurts me to see this carnage on the roads,
and in such abundance as well. On average, in a norma week,
there are three or four of these dead animals on the highway,
and no one seems to care. Their bodies lay there, most times
severed open, displaying all their intestines and other
grossities (that is my own word), attracting flies and other
drivers do their best to avoid these "obstacles"
but most don't see it before time. The reslut is half a
dog here, half somewhere further down the highway.
"good" news is that County Council does eventually
pick them up, after a week or so. Long after the vehicles
have had their way with them though.
week I was driving through St. Clair, can't remember where
I was going, I think it was to the bank , anyway, whatever.
So I'm looking at the Sabga house and the other big pappie
houses in the area, and one thing occurs to me , THESE
WALLS KEEP GETTING HIGHER AND HIGHER !
big pappie is building or renovating their house in the
area, and if allya see de size of de dam fence ! One big
thought to myself , it's quite funny, that these people,
with all their money and prestige , and money and Benzes,
and money and legal and illegal businesses, and money
and Grand Bazaar's live like prisoners in their own homes.
In their Suburban Fortresses
don't get me wrong, the crime rate in Trinidad aint of de
best and I guess we all do live in some form of prison ourselves,
but GEEZE !!!! It seems that these people not only compete
in wealth but also in the height of their walls as well.
I have to live in such seclusion and confinement because
I have money, then take back de beemer and gimme back meh
323 yes ..................Sheeeeeeeeeeesh !
Drowns in Drain
thought is about something that happened earlier on this
week. For those of you who don't know there was some severe
flash flooding in Trinidad this week, and it flooded in
several of the usual areas.
such area was Laventille, where the flood waters not only
brought down the debris from the hills but it also brought
down a little 7 year old boy who was playing in football
in the rain with his friends. Reports say that he was heading
for the ball which went in the drain and slipped and fell
body is still yet to be found.
is believed that his body was carried out to sea by the
Barataria river. They showed the report on TV the other
night. One shot that particularly disturbed me was one of
the mother reaching home to hear the news. Before she could
reach the house she heard loud crying and bawling not knowing
that it was her son that died that day. That must
have been the saddest day in her life.
this site ever reach 10,000 Hits ???
kidding, I'm thinking of ways to promote the site though.
Do you people think that regular e-mails is ok ? would like
to be reminded when the site is updated ?
wonder if I'm doing this in vain or if you people actually
check out the site ! (Kidding :) )So far the response
has been pretty good. Allot of people have written back
telling me that they like the site and that it is cool and
everything and I'm happy about that, thanks for your support.
my plan is to get it to be a site for all of us ! So your
feedback , comments etc. is vital.
surprised that I haven't heard from other people though.
Anyway looking forward to your responses.